Wednesday 31 December 2014

New Year's Eve: Saying Goodbye to 2014

Another year draws to a close. There's a twinge in my chest as I look back at 2014 and leave the memories (good and bad) behind. 2014 saw so many highlights, just as it witnessed some truly low moments.

2015. A chance to start afresh according to the onslaught of posts going up on Facebook and Google+. I hope it brings you all the fresh start that you're seeking. The truth is that we can scrub out the pages and start again at any point in time. It's only that it feels somehow better to do it at the start of new year.




Today, I'm getting ready to leave all of the pain from last year behind. To make it easier on myself, I'm also going to do some things that might not entirely please some other people. I've done everything I can to try to make things better with some people but I've reached that stage now where I know that I physically cannot do anymore. You see, making the effort is all well and good...but you cannot be the only person to do it. If the other person will not even contemplate compromising or meeting you halfway then you've done all that you can.

The only thing left for me to do now is forget and continue on with life. The easiest way for me to do that is to stop all contact with the things that cause me pain. It might be hard at first but I suspect it's for the best. The end of 2014 is a time for saying goodbye to the old, after all.




The fact is that it wasn't 2014 that made the mistakes. It was me. I made mistakes and the worst thing is that I'm not able to fix them. So, the only thing left to do is turn the page and start scrawling down new adventures in 2015. I know that everything that happens in life is my choice so I'm going to make sure 2015 is a good year for myself and the people who matter most to me.

Goodbye, 2014. You did the best you could with the tools you were given.

Monday 29 December 2014

Top 10 Quotes About Love

1. "So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day…"
Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

2. "Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime." 
Bette Davis


3. "I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you."
Jennifer Grey, Dirty Dancing

4. "Love is something eternal; the aspect may change, but not the essence."
― Vincent van Gogh




5. "Don’t forget I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her."
Julia Roberts, Notting Hill

6. "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."
― Lao Tzu

7. "You don't love someone because they're perfect, you love them in spite of the fact that they're not."
― Jodi Picoult, My Sister's Keeper




8.  "Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow complete you."
― Sarah Dessen, This Lullaby

9. "This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something."
 ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love  

10. "What's meant to be will always find a way."
― Trisha Yearwood 




If you've enjoyed these quotes, you might also want to read: 'Top 10 Inspirational Quotes'.


Sunday 28 December 2014

A Life of Regret or the Risk of a Sting?

Lately, I've been trying to follow my own advice and actively seek out my dreams. Dreams cannot be made into a reality if we only daydream about them every day, after all. To get anywhere, sometimes we need to be brave and take a leap of faith.




The problem, of course, comes when you take that leap of faith and everything falls apart. At the risk of being humiliated, I think it's fair to say that I've taken a few bold steps and done my absolute best these last few months to achieve my dreams. The issue still remains though and I feel further away from this dream than ever before―and more humiliated, too. Putting all of your cards on the table is a risky little thing to do and there is a part of me already regretting it. A wise person told me yesterday that they would do anything to make their dreams become a reality. They were quite right and you should follow your dreams...but I guess you should know when to stop, too.

At least I can honestly say I've done everything in my power now. It seems cruel that one can work so hard at achieving something and gain no ground at all. If a compromise or glimmer of hope could be given, it would be enough. Except that's not the way the world works―and that's okay. I've still done my best and I can hold my head up high. I didn't give in or give up; I kept trying to make things work. Maybe, in the end, I've been stronger than I ever dreamed.

I know I can be happy, no matter what happens, but building confidence in hope again is a tricky little project when everything seems to be driving in the opposite way. Thankfully, I'm scrappy enough to keep charging on even when the going gets tough. I'm not going to be afraid of stings, not when the only other option is to look back later in life and wonder if I could have done more. See, pain is temporary...but regret gnaws away at you if you let it.

The Christmas magic is still in the air. Perhaps things didn't quite work out for me on this particular occasion but there's still hope for you guys. Make it happen and be proactive. Actively seek out the future you want and make it happen. If other people in the world are finding happiness then there's no reason why you shouldn't be either. Live in hope and actively achieve your dreams.

It's your dream. Only you can make it a reality. Let go of any fear and expect the best for yourself.

Saturday 27 December 2014

Top 10 Inspirational Quotes

These are just some of the quotes that have helped to pick me up in the past when I've been flagging. I hope they inspire you just as much.




1. "I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all of the time."
―Anna Freud


2.  "In any project the important factor is your belief. Without belief, there can be no successful outcome."
William James


3. "You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
 Gandhi




4. "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover."
Mark Twain 


5. "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any."
 Alice Walker 


6. "In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure."
  Bill Cosby 




7. "So comes snow after fire, and even dragons have their endings."
J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit


8. "It is never too late to be what you might have been."
 George Eliot 


9. "Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird,
That cannot fly."
Langston Hughes




10.  "The greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved, and uncared for. We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love. There are many in the world who are dying for a piece of bread but there are many more dying for a little love. The poverty in the West is a different kind of poverty -- it is not only a poverty of loneliness but also of spirituality. There's a hunger for love, as there is a hunger for God."
Mother Teresa

Friday 26 December 2014

Dreams - Kissing

Dreams which involve kissing another person are actually a lot more common that people would care to admit. I'll happily be hold my hand up and admit that I've had dreams about kissing people. To be perfectly honest, I've even dreamed about kissing an ex-boyfriend or two in the past. I'm pretty certain, in those instances, that the dreams weren't foretelling my future...so let's get on to what dreams involving kissing can actually mean.


Dreaming that you're kissing a friend:

To dream that you're being kissed by a friend signifies the deep respect and care which you feel towards that person. It may also signify a wish to deepen your bond and friendship.


Dreaming that you're kissing a celebrity:

This often denotes a strong desire to succeed in something you're doing right now. If you're working on a new project then it might mean that you're desperate to succeed there.


Dreaming of kissing a stranger

If your dream involves kissing someone you don't know then it might signal a desire for a fresh start in some aspect of your life, or a journey of self-discovery that you're undertaking. There might be some aspect of yourself that you're only just beginning to discover. Alternatively, it might mean that you're finally recognising some aspect of yourself that you'd previously repressed.


Dreaming that you're kissing an ex-boyfriend:

This can mean several different things so you'll have to decide which feels most right for you and the dream you were experiencing. I know some people hope that a reconciliation with an ex in a dream is a premonition for the future. I'm afraid I can't offer that guarantee, just as I can't disapprove it either. It's possible that your subconscious is picking up signs that are coming from your ex...but it's also equally possible that the dream is just trying to help you work through something.

Dreaming about kissing an ex-boyfriend suggests that the ex-boyfriend is on your mind. However, it could simply mean that your brain is looking back on the positive experiences that you had with your ex and is yearning for something similar with a new love. If you're single, it's possible that your brain is acknowledging the positive points of a past relationship so that you can work out what you want in future relationships. If there's been a significant shift or change in your life recently then the dream could also signal how far you've come since that relationship.

To dream of kissing your first love may be symbolic of fresh love or romance blooming in your life. If you're already in a relationship but dreaming about your ex then it could mean you need to add a little more passion and romance into your existing relationship.


Hints and tips: 

  • If your dream involves kissing a stranger then is there anything about him that is at all familiar? Does he look or remind you of anyone? 
  • Different parts of the body mean different things. For example, someone kissing you on the neck suggests passion, lust and giving into your desires. Alternatively, if you are kissing someone's foot then it may signify the respect you feel for that person. Similarly, dreaming of kissing someone on the cheek often denotes respect and friendship.

Thursday 25 December 2014

A Little Christmas Hope and Love

A festive season and an appropriately festive celebration to mark it. This year, the Christmas celebrations have gotten just a little bit more special though.


Today, two of my friends got engaged and are spending the Christmas period celebrating their love for each other. The pair have been together for five years and have stayed strong through everything. They are so perfect together and now they get to spend the rest of their lives celebrating that fact. I wish the happy couple a world of happiness and a lifetime of days filled with sunshine. I cannot think of a lovelier couple and I will be raising a glass of wine in their honour tonight.

The thing about Christmas is that it opens our hearts up to love again. The emotional walls erected come crashing down as the joy of Christmas seeps through and offers us renewed hope. Even the most battered and emotionally bruised heart starts to dare to dream and make wishes. Keep hoping and believe in achieving the best for yourself. Love really is infinite and endless―you just have to let yourself receive it. Be willing to receive and good will come to you.

Christmas is all about love and letting the people around you know how much you care for them. Take a couple of minutes today to tell someone important that you love them. Take the time to step out of your comfort zone and open your heart up to the people you want in your life. Seize every moment because―even if you don't end up where you'd like―then at least you won't have to look back with regret in later years. Take a chance on love and see where it leads.

To all the couples out there that are getting engaged or reuniting, I wish you so much luck and happiness. To all the people lonely or hurting over the Christmas period, I really hope you get your happy ending soon. Please don't despair because nothing is ever hopeless unless we believe it. Things change every day. The only thing constant in this world is the fact there isn't really much that is constant. Good will come to you eventually―and it'll be worth the wait.

<3 Happy Christmas! <3



"You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it come true. You may have to work for it, however."
Richard Bach


"We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope."
Martin Luther King, Jr

Top 10 Festive Quotes

 Here's my pick of some of the best Christmas quotes from various people, films and books. Merry Christmas!



1. “I will honour Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year. I will live in the Past, the Present, and the Future. The Spirits of all Three shall strive within me. I will not shut out the lessons that they teach!”
Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol


2. “The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree: the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.”
―Burton Hillis





3.“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn't before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn't come from a store. What if Christmas...perhaps...means a little bit more!”
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas! 



4. “What is Christmas? It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal, and that every path may lead to peace.” 
Agnes M. Pahro


5. “Christmas gift suggestions: To your enemy, forgiveness. To an opponent, tolerance. To a friend, your heart. To a customer, service. To all, charity. To every child, a good example. To yourself, respect.”
Oren Arnold


 6. “Strange, isn't it? Each man's life touches so many other lives. When he isn't around he leaves an awful hole, doesn't he?”
 Clarence, It's a Wonderful Life


7. “Our hearts grow tender with childhood memories and love of kindred, and we are better throughout the year for having, in spirit, become a child again at Christmas-time.”
Laura Ingalls Wilder 



8. “Seeing is believing, but sometimes the most real things in the world are the things we can’t see.” The Conductor, The Polar Express




9.  “Let’s just say that on this day, a million years ago, a dude was born who most of us think was magic. But others don’t, and that’s cool. But we’re probably right. Amen.”
― Homer Simpson


10. “My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?”
— Bob Hope



Wednesday 24 December 2014

Christmas Magic


Christmas Day is almost upon us. As I write this post to you, the presents have already been stacked under the tree and the last of the pre-Christmas preparations finished. There's something a little bit magical in the air around Christmas Eve and I can't quite shake the feeling that something good is coming my way. Earlier misgivings are fading and giving way to a renewed feeling of hope and love.


I choose to believe in the magic of wishes. With the fire place aglow and a plate full of steaming hot mince pies awaiting me, I'm going to take a few minutes to make a wish on whatever Christmassy star is shining outside. The true magic of Christmas is in the spirit of believing; if you believe in miracles then anything can happen.

Last Christmas, I got one of the biggest miracles I'd ever asked for by being positive and believing. Perhaps you'll be lucky enough to get your wish this year if you do the same. It might not always come in the way you expect but things have a way of working out.

That being said, sometimes you've also got to know when to stop chasing a dream. If you're persistently being blocked then maybe there's a reason for that. If your dream involves someone else then remember that you cannot be the only person to put in all of the effort. Sometimes a little help has to come from the other person—and if they can't do that, or aren't even willing to try, then move on and find yourself a new dream. You are worth more. You might not believe it... but you are. If one dream isn't working out for you then build yourself a better one.

Believe in the magic, make a wish, dare to dream...and have a wonderful Christmas.


Tuesday 23 December 2014

5 Signs of an Awesome Friendship

 

1. Onesies become a natural accessory for any activity:





2. Your male friends aren't afraid to try new things, like Zumba, out:



3. Your friends are willing to jump off a cliff (or hill) for you:




4. Public displays of idiocy become a natural occurrence:



5. You both know that you're secretly Disney princesses at heart and everything you do must therefore involve singing: NB: Disney owns the rights to all songs etc.


Dota 2 - A Basic Guide for Newbies



My first experience of Dota 2 comprised of my (now ex) boyfriend convincing me to skip the Dota 2 tutorial and plunge straight into a bot game—without him having explained anything about the game  beforehand. Needless to say, I spent the entire game wondering what was going on and I ended up feeding the enemy bots more times than I'd care to admit. My naïve head believed that there was a trick to killing the enemy bots and that randomly bashing buttons would work to my advantage eventually. All I did was die a lot—which subsequently earned the enemy bots lots of gold and increased their levels rapidly.


Once my ex-boyfriend had stopped laughing at my expense and sat me down properly to explain things in a bit more detail, the whole game made a lot more sense. Thankfully, I was lucky enough to have a boyfriend who was patient enough to dedicate hours of his time towards helping me learn and progress. Other beginners don't quite have that luck...and that's where the internet comes up trumps for newbies. If you haven't checked out Purge's guide to Dota 2 ("Welcome to Dota, You Suck") then I recommend doing that straight away after reading this. Purge's guide is a lifeline and will make understanding the game a lot easier for you.
Also, I cannot stress the helpfulness of Youtube when learning about Dota 2—there's a lot of tutorials on there that take you through everything step-by-step so it's worth checking it out.

Now, onto the (limited) bits where I can offer help:
 

Choosing a Hero - Carry or Support




A lot of people suggest trying out every character at least once. The argument for this is that you can get to grips with the different skills set of each character, which means you know what to expect when those characters then turn up during the online matches. It's a good idea but I don't recommend doing it when you're just starting out. Pick a handful of characters that feel right for you and practise getting really good with those select few—otherwise you'll just overwhelm yourself.

Also, you might want to decide whether you prefer playing as a 'carry' or a 'support'. If you prefer charging into the action, you're probably better suited to being a carry. Generally speaking, I prefer playing the part of support. The support characters are usually more squishy but I enjoyed using my skills to aid team-mates in getting last hits. For example, if I'm playing as Witch Doctor ("With vim and vigour!") then I'll spend my time 'denying' the opposing team's last hits on creeps, harassing opponents so that the carries can get lots of juicy 'last hits', and using my skills to help team-mates.
 
 
Important tips when playing support:

  • If you're playing online and you're the only support (which can easily happen in an online match), you will need to use your starting gold to buy the courier. Once bought, you will also need to level up the courier so it becomes a 'Flying Courier' (basically you give the donkey wings) as soon as possible. 
  • Wards. If you're playing support, it's up to you to buy the wards and strategically place them around the map.
  • Don't steal all the last hits during the laning phase. If you're a support, the chances are that you have (or should have) a carry sharing the lane with you—and they will need those last hits for the gold. Go for last hits only when it's impossible for the carry to get them.
Important tip when playing a carry:
  • Last hits are your best friend. You need to farm lots if you want to get enough gold and XP to do some real damage. The more gold you have, the better the items you can get from the shop.

The Shop - Your Best Friend in the Game

The items you pick can make all the difference between  whether you are going to win or lose a game. For example, buying endless amounts of healing salves is pointless when you could save up for something like a Drum of Endurance.

As a newbie, whilst getting started out and learning all the items, I recommend you change the 'suggested items' section in your inventory to one of the custom created builds.

The 'suggested items' do not always fit the needs of your character best. Different characters have different needs. For example, if I was playing as Death Prophet, I would make sure that I had a Heart of Tarrasque and a Bloodstone ("Beautiful, beautiful bloodstone!") later in the game.

 Thankfully, people have made their own list of builds for characters. You can access those instead by clicking on the little book at the top left of your screen:

 Once you've done that, click on the little yellow arrow and then select whichever build is moment appropriate for your character.


It makes the game a lot easier when you're starting out, trust me!




Towers


Very briefly, standing by a tower will get you killed.  Avoid doing this unless your team are destroying said tower.

Last Hits/Denies



Do not keep hitting creeps unnecessarily during the laning phase. It only pushes the lane and then suddenly the creep wave is behind an enemy tower and you're missing out on those precious last hits. In the early stages, you want to keep the creep wave closer to your towers (and that's where denying works quite nicely) and only strike when the enemy creeps are very low on health. If you get the last hit on a creep, you get more experience and gold.

Denying is basically when you take the last hit on one of of your own creeps to stop the enemy from gaining the full amount of gold or experience from the kill. It's simple but effective.

Tips and Hints

  • Practise bot games first. Bot games are pretty predictable but they're definitely helpful when you're first getting to grips with the map, learning characters, practising last hits, and working on improving your general understanding of the game (which also means you're less likely to incur the wrath of your teammates).
  • Always carry a spare portal scroll with you. As the game progresses, I usually keep two handy in my inventory for when I need to get to a fight quickly. 
  • Check the map frequently. The map is your friend. It lets you know when friends are about to push a particular lane—and warns you of when the opposing team might be massing and plotting the same thing.
  • If the opposing team suddenly all disappear off the map for a while, it's entirely probable that they've gone to defeat Roshan (the dragon). 



Lastly, no matter how hard you try or how polite you are, at some stage you probably will get flamed. However, do not let the comments of one grumpy player put you off the game. The predominance of people playing Dota just want to have fun and enjoy the game. 

Dota 2 is a huge learning curve and even seasoned players still have a lot to learn. As an example, my boyfriend had over 1,000 hours of gameplay time on Dota and he's still working hard to improve. I've had 350 hours of gameplay and—put this way—I'm not gonna be winning the international awards any time soon. To get really good at Dota you have to be willing to put the hours in every day and keep practising.

Hope this helps, guys. Happy gaming!